Leaving used plates and glasses on kitchen sinks used to be ‘unacceptable’ for me.  I couldn’t stand seeing piles of dirty tablewares left for hours on end.  But that’s only until I had two young kids and have learned to schedule the times I will spend dish washing.   It is true that kids teach you a lot of things.  One of them is prioritizing.  It is not practical to spend time agonizing over chores that are left undone.